Friends of Survivors

If you are reading this because you want to support someone who has lost a loved one to suicide, know that you will make a profound difference by reaching out. Every survivor will tell you that they never forget those who supported them and helped them get through the rough days of loss.

Each and every suicide is sudden, unexpected and traumatic. This is true even if the deceased made previous attempts. Most grievers need emotional support and compassionate understanding from friends as they begin the journey from shock to survival and beyond. What to Say and Do: "Do make sure the family's religious leader and congregation are aware of the death. Do participate in all mourning rituals -- attend the wake, funeral, memorial service, or reception. Give unconditional support. It is very appropriate to let the bereaved know that no matter what they are feeling, it is OK. Do bring meals and help out in all the ways you would for anyone who is mourning the death of a loved one." Robbie Miller Kaplan has provide many  good suggestions for friends of survivors.  Click here to read more ...

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."   Walter Winchell On the morning after Chan died, my doorbell rang.  Standing outside with brooms in their hands, were my old neighbors.  They had retired and moved across town after living next door for 25 years.  Six years earlier, they had lost their only child. "We're here to clean your house," Betty said.  "You're going to have a lot of company."  They walked in ... and then I really can't remember what they did.  I was too numb. Ronnie Walker