Love

Beneath all of the feelings of shock, guilt, anger and grief ... there is an underlying love that survivors have for the one who has departed.

"Because there is such deep love for these dearly departed people, I am suggesting that survivors concentrate on the fact that their loved ones are no longer struggling but are at peace.

Granted that they left behind a wake of pain and disruption, they did not want this effect. Their mind was so distorted and engulfed in pain that they thought that they were doing the right thing. They had no idea of the destruction that they were leaving behind.

Try to imagine them totally at peace and free of pain. We want only what is best for our loved ones and freedom from pain for these tortured souls is a gift beyond measure. Granted there are other means to achieve freedom from pain such as medication or other types of therapy but these loved ones honestly and sincerely thought that the only way out of this ocean of pain was to take their life. They were not acting out of malice. They were acting out of desperation."
                                                    Fr. Charles Rubey









"I did not mean for you to grieve
now left alone to cry
It wasn’t my intention to leave you
Forever askinq why
As the burdens of life's worries
slowly ebb from my heart
It wasn’t my intention
to tear your soul apart."

Excerpted from:  Reflection by Y. Dorcherty